HOW TO KEEP ARGUMENTS UNDER CONTROL
No one likes to argue but arguments will happen.
Simple tips on how to keep arguments under control:
• No name-calling, no foul language, no raised voices.
• Give direct eye contact and do nothing else while your spouse is talking.
• Don't throw items.
• Don't slam doors.
• Listen and don't interrupt.
• Repeat what the person has said. Use as many of the same words as possible.
• Sympathize. Let the other person know you understand that they are feeling bad, even if they are blaming you for the problem.
• Don't ignore the person.
• Ask, "Is there anything more you want to tell me?"
• Give your partner a chance to discover deeper feelings, and to shift to a calmer, more neutral place.
• Do not argue while intoxicated or under the influence of drugs.
• If you find yourself getting carried away, call a time-out. Stop right there and agree to talk later.
CHEERS
Re: HOW TO KEEP ARGUMENTS UNDER CONTROL
This will probably work when we all become automated.