How do one cope with a boss who is a lesbian...to quit or stay?

One of my friends from school who works with an NGO is in deep shit now between the decision of if to keep her job or to loss it.cos her boss is a .she ask me to advice her but i want to get some fact from u guys to back up mine.
Cheers.

you did not mention whether his/her boss is making overtures towards her

Yes she has been disturbing her ever since she emplloyed my friend and she is paying her a lot of money.

Hello,
pls tell ur friend to quit the job.God will provide for her.If God can feed the birds why not man.
Big pay is not everything,remember the word of God.If her boss continue,pls tell her to run.
sammie
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Mavdav, this is my advice to ur friend.

If ur friend got the job without any undue recommendation/assistance of any sort, then she should quit job. God who gave her the job will surely provide even a better one for her. The act is SATANIC and she will face the consequences if obliged.

BUT if OTHERWISE, she may have to think twice because she will not be too sure of getting such offer elsewhere ( maybe due to her credentials or sumtin else)

Whatever the case maybe, she should be bold enough to accept responsibility for her actions.
She should also seek the face of God for directions. Maybe God wants to use her to change the attitude of her boss if she prays for that. It has to be serious prayers though, if she really likes the job and the boss.

Wish her divine intervention!

Thanks for all ur advice :) ???

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Originally Posted by mavdav

One of my friends from school who works with an NGO is in deep shit now between the decision of if to keep her job or to loss it.cos her boss is a .she ask me to advice her but i want to get some fact from u guys to back up mine.
Cheers.

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If her boss insists on having her way, she should quit but she must let her boss know her stand that she is totally against style style. God who gave her the job without her compromising will surely bring a better one if that is the price she has to pay. Cheers

All these office drama :o
I TIRE O! :(
GOD BLESS

honestly, i think this world is turning to something else......
Na wa o!!!!!!!!

As our brother's keepers, we must all stand in the gap for this sister. She must never give in to the Devil. Let us commit her boss's heart in the hand of God and pray for the sister in question to get wisdom and God's direction (Remember, the fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much).

If nothing changes after prayer, then our dear sister can gladly leave the job and I can bet my life on it that she will get a better, more-rewarding offer within the same month! After reading this, just bow your heads and pray for the sister and her boss as the Holy Spirit directs you believing in your heart that it will be done as you have asked.

God bless you all!

Sexual harassment issues are the function of the HR except the boss is in charge of HR which might be a problem as per reporting. She should not be rash though by quitting.
If she can report they will ask for evidence to support her claim, she can get this by using voice recorders which are common these days on mobile phones. make sure she does not suspect though. 8)
All the best in your fight

that was a good one Sfad thanks.

Sfad, I think you answered most prudently of the lot. Quitting a job in a country like Nigeria should not be encouraged, except another one is waiting. So, whatever happens, stay at your job, and painfully get another first. Then, leave - if you have to. And, please, direct bosses need not own the company. Speak to HR, speak to people higher up the ladder... speak to the highest one (GOD). But DO NOT LEAVE, until you get another offer. You will be fine. :)

Quit the job?, tell an higher boss?, HMMMMM

Well if she is going to quit the job like someone said get another one first. Jobs are so hard to get nowadays.

Tell the boss, that scary. She is a new staff and does not know what the boss is.
What if the boss is also a ?, or simply thinks she is just trying to be mischievous?.
My sister, if she go tell the boss she go need a very very solid proof o. Voice recording just wont do.

Remember the case of a student versus lecturer in lag due to lack of evidence the student lost out at the end of the drama.

The best type of evidence will be to set the woman up (you know create a fake sense of confidence in the person and then let her be caught red handed ) or better get all discussions in video.

The good God will help this lady and us all.

GOD BLESS

Thanks TBABY my friend was pleased to read all u guys have wrote to her. she will be joining our forum soon cos she was just surprised when i open it and ask her to come and read.she commented on all our good works being our brothers keeper
THANK U ALL SHE SAID.
Cheers.

Honestly,

I would not advise your friend to leave this job right now because of the sexual harrasment. I also do not advise her to report the matter to higher authorities.

My points:

If she leaves that job, remember that getting another is not always that easy. Besides, our economy here in Nigeria is not encouraging for one to start a personal enterprise.

If she leaves the job, she would allow that woman [the boss] have the impression she can intmidate everybody with her promiscious lifestyle.

Alternatively, if she reports to higher authority, Managements never treat such matters in favour of the offended. They may likely see her as a threat [especially, if most of them are involved in this act] So, she might end up creating a worse repute for herself.

My advice:
Do not quit the job. She should try to be smart. If it continues, she can tell the woman sternly [but politely] that she is not interested in her proposal. When the woman sees her seriousness, I'm sure she will succumb eventually.

JOJO

Thank u all my dear friends u guys have really helped me out and prayers too has done it all.and thanks to my dear friends once again :)

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LILIAN N.

Mavdav, tell ur friend to either quite the job or face God's judgement because he said, He shall cut of the faces of Homosexuals and Lesbians from the surface of this earth.

Let her be blunt with her boss. Tell her she is not interested who knows the spiritual effects involved in this her dirty game.

Anyway, if i were to be in ur friend's shoes, i will tell her boss point blank the way i feel about the whole thing but politely. Maybe becoz i am just that blunt a no nonesense person.

@Benita,

Listen, one has to be wise at all times in handling issues like these. I am not asking her to compromise her christian faith. You are getting us wrong.

My point is that she can still remain in that job and stand her ground on her principles, while waiting for another one.

The fact still remains that problems arise everywhere we go, so running away from it doesn't mean that we are free from trouble. If she resigns from that office because of this little threat just like that, that means she is not strong.

Who knows? If she does not quit and still stands her ground, she might just win the woman over.


Jojo

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@Benita,

Listen, one has to be wise at all times in handling issues like these. I am not asking her to compromise her christian faith. You are getting us wrong.

My point is that she can still remain in that job and stand her ground on her principles, while waiting for another one.

The fact still remains that problems arise everywhere we go, so running away from it doesn't mean that we are free from trouble. If she resigns from that office because of this little threat just like that, that means she is not strong.

Who knows? If she does not quit and still stands her ground, she might just win the woman over.


My dear, did u get the question? please try and read the question well before crucifying me.

Use your brain you dont have to quit the job lull her get her into a compromising position .Haven't you got a phone with tape recorder or something get some stuff to hold over her so that you can have your peace until you get another job to go to. Make sure she knows that a third party is in the know about the evidence. Think think !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well,

It is a thing to take an ox to the river and it is another thing to force the ox to take water or put water into the ox’s mouth. Did you say your friend works with an NGO? First what is the function of the NGO? Are they a NGO?

Looking at the situation on employment of this country I will not advice your friend to just quit the job but to sort for another job; “A bird at hand is worth more than million in the bush” while she is careful and vigilant in her dealings with her boss. Preferable she should be prepare for a war and be bold enough to always resist her. More so tell your friend if she does not have a phone that can record voice she should please get one and play a game of risk in recording her conversation with her box. This has really help with a recent crisis in the Federal Polytechnic Bida to net the HOD of a department in the institution. This you can read from the sun newspaper on this link (http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpage...06-2007-02.htm)